20 Aug The Lived Experience of Duality
“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.” – Mary Oliver
The more I understand about nature – that in order for there to be life, there must be death. In order to have a spring we must have a fall – to have summer, we must have a winter. For there to be day, there must also be a night. To have light, we must also experience darkness. Life is a balancing scale. Equal parts of everything.
The more I understand that in order for there to be a savior there must be a martyr – in order for a hero to rise, there must be a villain – the more I understand about contrast and growth…
It makes me understand that when soul agreements are made, we must choose one or the other: to be the one to ignite growth in another (the villain) or choose to be the one that expands (the hero). We choose light or we choose darkness. Neither is actually “good” nor “bad” in the way we’ve been taught to think. This also helped me to not just forgive my abuser but to be filled with gratitude. For what kind of a desperate life and hell they are tormented with until they can one day, again, return to grace.
I know this to be true as I have long seen the villain in myself in many lives past. We come for every experience. We come to understand it all. We realize at one point or another that even the monsters were once gods in a different tale, another dimension, and some other drop in time. Or maybe the villain is actually the hero for they are the ones who ignite change…
“The demon that you can swallow gives you its power, and the greater life’s pain, the greater life’s reply.” -Joseph Campbell, The Power of Myth